In short
- Forgiveness is not approval.
- It is refusing to carry what happened any further.
- The person who wronged you has usually moved on.
- You are the only one still paying rent on the memory.
Forgiving is not approving
Forgiving is not saying that what happened was acceptable. It is refusing to carry it any further. You can forgive someone and still keep your distance from them.
Who is paying the rent
The one who wronged you moved on. You are the one still paying rent.
The memory replays in one mind only: yours. Every replay is another payment for something already over.
How to stop paying
The same method he gives for anger and overthinking applies: stop giving the memory a second thought, and give the mind the name instead. It is a practice, not a single decision.
Where this comes from
Everything on this page is drawn from what this site records of his public satsang on the questions page and the teachings page. It summarises his position; it does not quote him word for word.
This is a fan website, not the official site of Shri Hit Radha Keli Kunj. The article summarises what he teaches in public satsang; it does not quote him. If something here is wrong, tell us and it is corrected the same week.
