What Premanand Ji Maharaj says to do in the ten seconds when it rises.
He treats anger as heat that arrives because something you wanted did not happen. You cannot argue with heat, and you need not feel guilty about it.
क्रोध को दूसरा विचार मत दो।
Do not give anger a second thought. The first thought arrives without asking. The second is the one you build to justify it.
Not the reason for it. The reason will still be there later, and it will be smaller.
The reply you are composing is the second thought. Leave it unfinished.
The mind will hold something. Give it the name instead of the grievance.
If something still needs saying, it can be said in a minute, and it will be said better.
An untrained mind chews whatever it is handed. So the work is not to fight a thought but to stop feeding it.
Something provokes you and there is a small delay before you react. It shows in your behaviour before it shows in your feelings.
Do your own part completely and stop counting the other person's. Someone has to stop waiting for the other to change first.
He sends people to doctors. If anger is harming you or others, speak to a professional, and chant alongside that help.
Why this works where fighting the thought does not, and the root of anger.